Saturday, March 30, 2013

How we got here

The purpose of this blog is to not only help keep people informed on our crazy amazing life as it progresses, but it will also give us a pretty amazing scrap book of sorts to show our kids one day.  Details often become fuzzy over the months and years, and by documenting things as they happen, we will have a great story to show and read to our little family in the years to come. 

Our journey to how we got pregnant isn't nearly as exciting as some, but for us it is beautifully unique, just like our little one who is currently wedged in my ribs growing in my belly.  Not wanting to forget any details, I thought it would be fun to share the story of how we found ourselves in our current situation.  We are currently a family of 3 (me, B and our dog Copper) and are rapidly approaching a family of 4.  Living in the Upper Midwest has brought challenges (we have four seasons here- almost winter, winter, still winter, and road construction) but we are happy to call it home. We are happy homeowners to a slightly crackerjack cozy home and have enjoyed the constant adventures via small renovations projects around the house to help make it uniquely our own. We are lovers of the outdoors and all that accompanies it, and are looking forward to taking our growing little family on many camping trips, hunting adventures and rock climbing outings.

This is a typical family photo of the three of us

For those that know me, you know that I live in a constant state of organized chaos.  I thrive under organization at my job, but at home my whirlwind tornado way of life balances out B's prior military background.  We had been married for about a year and a half and decided to loosely try for a baby while B was at the academy.  We got pregnant the first time in June, and after the miscarriage in mid July, we knew that we wanted to try again as soon as possible.  Like last time, I did everything by the book.  Exercised frequently (I was training for a half marathon on August 19th), ate well, slept alot, charted things- you name it, I did it.  And yet, when I got that positive pregnancy test result the second time, I was still just as shocked as if we hadn't planned anything.

After my body had been through hell and back with the miscarriage, and my finishing the half marathon, I figured me being over a week late was just residual effects from either of those things. 
So the end of September rolls around, and once i realized how late i actually was, I took a pregnancy test on a whim one morning before work (on September 26th, actually).  The normal time to wait for the results is 3 minutes, but within 15 seconds, we had a strong positive. Feeling the effect of holycrapI'mpregnant, i sat down on the side of bathtub so i didnt fall over, and once i had collected myself, I looked again just to make sure.  There it was- positive. Seeing those two lines was such a rush! after having to take test after test to confirm the miscarriage hormones had passed from my system completely, seeing those two lines.. no words! SO many emotions in that moment, but the rational side of me had to keep me breathing.  I thought that surely it was a mistake but again, the rational side of me knew better (you dont get false positives, thats just a myth).
 

Since i hadn't anticipated taking the test, and most definitely didnt expect seeing the positive result, ihad taken  the test in the morning before I went to work, and B had already gone.  Seeing how quickly it turned positive completely threw me for a loop and while I was absolutely thrilled, a small part of me worried it was residual hormones from the miscarriage just a short while ago.  I made it to work with this amazing news, called my doctor's office and let them know I was pregnant, and asked what we should do next.  I voiced my fears of it not being a legit positive, and after a brief disussion with the nurse, she confirmed it was a new slew of hormones and that i was in fact pregnant (squeee!), took my initial health info and got me scheduled for an ultrasound later that week.

Knowing I had this amazing news to share with B but couldn't share it just yet was torture!  I knew that i needed to do things right and tell him better than I had the first time around (yes, I failed miserably at being all creative with this the first time around).  Case in point- he had been working nights at the time and came in the door after I had taken the test.  I was preparing to head out the door to run to work (literally.run. - I was still training for the half at that time) and had taken a test because i was a few days late.  I had no idea we would get the positive that morning, and when he walked in the door, i had the test behind my back, and pulled it out with tears in my eyes and a big smile on my face and handed it to him to process.  He looked at me and asked if we were pregnant and I said 'yes', and you can assume how the rest of it went.  of course the moment was special in its own awesome way, but it was sort of anticlimactic and i felt bad for that.



Knowing full well i had to step it up and do things right this time, I came up with an idea that was 100% us, and i knew hoped he would love it.  I went to work with this amazingly awesome secret and designed a custom print for a t-shirt store down the street from my office.  I picked it up on my way home and put it and the gross pee covered stick postive test in the gift bag (in a zip lock bag, give me some credit!) to give to B.  He was sitting on the couch and looked at me skeptically as i handed him the gift bag.  But as long as i live, i'll never forget the look of absolute joy on his face when he pulled the onsie out of the bag.  It is B's favorite article of clothing for our little one, and he's asked numerous times if it can be the outfit the baby comes home from the hospital in ;)







After a few happy tears and another three pregnancy tests we accepted the awesome reality that had become our life, and haven't looked back. 





Trying to figure out how to tell our parents was another task in itself.  We knew we needed the support system in place immediately, just in case we experienced another devistating loss, but wanted it to be special for both sets of Grandparents, so we got to thinking, and came up with unique ways to tell both sets.



Gma and Gpa Dobbs travel a fair amount, and for them we made some customized airplane and show tickets.  My dad caught on first, and once my mom got it a few seconds later, hugs and tears ensued. 







Gma and Gpa Akley are lovers of a good bottle of wine (who isn't?!) and for them, we made a custom wine label and put it on a bottle we knew they'd love.  We went over to their house for a family dinner and announced that we brought something to drink (not uncommon). B handed it to his dad, and he didnt quite get it at first, and once his mom read it, she let out an excited squeel and the rest was history :)

Like I mentioned before, this pregnancy has been amazing.  No morning sickness to speak of, no major migraines, leg cramps, or any of the other symptoms you often read about.  Our doctor has been amazing and often reassures me that the ease of this pregnancy is repayment for the one that we lost, and while that's a good way to look at it, we know that this little one growing in my belly is completely unique and a blessing all on its' own.  Don't get me wrong- i know just how lucky i am and count my blessings every day, but how awesome its all been makes me a little hesitant to even think of having more than one- what if the next pregnancy is by the book, but in the exactly opposite/horrible way?!  we'll cross that bridge later..

So in a nutshell, that is how we got to our present state.  Two kids in love, with our crazy dog by our side, and a wonderfully supportive family behind us, we are so looking forward to this next step in our lives.  If only i could see into the future to find out how it ends up.. For now, i'll take the fact that I can't see my feet as a sign to stop worrying, stop looking down, and look to the future and enjoy wherever it takes us. :)


#Lyndsey

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

30 weeks

 
We had out 30 week check up today and all is going well with me and the LO.  I stepped on the scale and didn't really cry (progress!) and our doctor basically said everything is on track and going according to plan.  We had a strong healthy heartbeat of 140 bpm, and our Dr. played full witness to the stubbornness of the baby.  It took her a minute to find the heartbeat to begin with, and once she did, he/she moved after a few seconds.  She found the heartbeat again, and the baby moved yet again!  I laughed and said "yup, B and I both have a strong will, so I know this will be a stubborn one" and she said "well, you said he/she is stubborn.. not me!" Good Grief..
She also mentioned I'm measuring about 1cm small, but expected that out of me at this stage of the game. (meaning i'm a slight person, so being off slightly isn't cause for concern at this point)  She also said that we are still in the stage where they'd stop me if I went into labor (um... ya thank you for that!) so i asked her when they wouldn't stop the labor, and she said at 34 weeks.  34 weeks?! thats a month from now! we have sooo much to do between now and then!  Mild heart attack on my part, but she highly doubts that we will have any issues with early labor, just bc things have gone smoothly up till now.  Still.. I'll be running to Target and starting to pack our bags now.. just in case.  
 Another mild heart attack- We have less than 10 weeks till our due date!!  So crazy to think about, I remember when we were only 10 weeks into the pregnancy and had 30 to go, and now we are the exact opposite end of the spectrum.  So exciting!

 
How far along? 30 weeks
Total weight gain/loss: +22 lbs
Maternity clothes? There is still a few inches of snow on the ground from our recent storms, but I've worn a dress and a skirt the last two days and couldn't care less.  I'm super comfortable and thats what matters!
Stretch marks? Still none and keeping fingers crossed it stays that way!
Best moment this week: We finally have our names!  Since we are still team green (meaning we dont know the gender) we have a boy and a girl name picked out, and we are in love with either one. Such a relief to have that checked off the 'do to' list!
Miss anything: Being able to wear my wedding ring. B put so much thought and effort into custom designing it for me and I LOVE it, so its a bummer that it doesn't fit right now :(
Movement: I've noticed that we have a fairly active little one; especially in the mornings. My stomach looks like a wave pool of sorts. the baby is getting bigger and you can totally see him/her fighting to get comfortable in there.
Food cravings: I gave into what i would call my first "craving" last night.  I wanted a hot dog for lunch and put it off until dinner, and then proceeded to go through the drive through at Sonic twice. Whoops.. but sooo good
Anything making you queasy or sick: Nope.
Have you started to show yet: most definitely.
Gender: We are still team green!
Labor Signs: Nope, all is staying put and continuing to cook as planned. The Braxton Hicks contractions have become much stronger, so we are getting some good practice.
Belly Button in or out? we are dangerously close to having the 'turkey timer belly button' pop out!
Wedding rings on or off? Sadly, they have been temporarily moved to the safe.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy
Looking forward to: We have the dates nailed down for 2 of the baby showers/parties and I couldn't be more excited! The first is 5/2 at my work, and then we are having a co-ed bbq party at Gma and Gpa Akley's on 5/18. Being surrounded by friends and family so close to the end of the pregnancy will be great, and a welcome distraction from the 'end of pregnancy' dolldrums.


see the bump on the right hand side?

 
 
The baby likes to stay in the fetal position as much as humanly possible, and often times my stomach gets all lopsided as a result.  Its much more visible in person, but you get the idea from the photo.  Nearly every ultrasound photo we have, the baby has a foot-or both- up by his/her face. I have a feeling that swaddling is going to be our best friend..
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Regular clothes photo of me and WoabbaLee at 29w2d.  It looks like I'm smuggling a basketball or watermelon under my shirt, but its alll baby in there.  From the front and the back, i dont look too pregnant, but when i turn to the side.. it looks like the broad side of a barn a cute pregnancy tummy.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
In non-baby related news: Brandon was recently hired onto the Water Search and Rescue team! This is a great opportunity for him and he is very excited about it, so it is fun to have something non-pregnancy related to look forward to. He will train once a month and then after he's been scuba certified, anytime there is a missing person or a resue needed for a person who has fallen into the water (lake, creek, etc.) he will be on call to go help find them/save their life. Its great to see he has a passion for keeping other people safe, even ones he doesn't know. So Proud :) 
 
#Lyndsey 

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

29 weeks

29 weeks
How far along? 29 weeks
Total weight gain/loss: +17lbs at our 28 week appointment last week
Maternity clothes? I'm to the point where maternity pants and leggings are becoming uncomfortable.  I'm so ready for spring, and might start wearing dresses in the snow, just so I'm more comfortable.
Stretch marks? Still none and keeping fingers crossed it stays that way!
Best moment this week: We passed the Gestational Diabetes test! All is healthy for me and our baby bear, so that was great news to hear. (I had an irrational fear that i was going to fail.  Idk why, I eat healthy, still workout, etc., but still.. strange things happen!)
Miss anything: Being able to wear my wedding ring.  B put so much thought and effort into custom designing it for me and I LOVE it, so its a bummer that it doesn't fit right now :(
Movement: I've noticed that we have a fairly active little one; especially in the mornings.  My stomach looks like a wave pool of sorts. the baby is getting bigger and you can totally see him/her fighting to get comfortable in there.
Food cravings: I'm still loving the Watermelon or Strawberry Blow Pops.
Anything making you queasy or sick: Nope.
Have you started to show yet: most definitely. 
Gender: We are still team green!
Labor Signs: Nope, all is staying put and continuing to cook as planned. The Braxton Hicks have subsided a bit; they still happen but not as frequently (that I've noticed at least!)
Belly Button in or out? we are dangerously close to having the 'turkey timer belly button' pop out!
Wedding rings on or off? Sadly, they have been temporarily moved to the safe.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy
Looking forward to: Meeting him/her! We know there is still a fair amount of time left in the pregnancy, but we are so excited to have him or her be a part of our daily lives on the outside.
 
#Lyndsey

Friday, March 15, 2013

snap shots from this week

 
 
 
We ordered pizza for dinner the other night (HUGE mistake on my part) and B thought it would be funny to include the wording he did on the 'special instructions' section.  It worked though, the pizza came quickly!  I'm starting to think I need to use that as an excuse more often.  I feel that pregnant women can get away with more stuff than a normal person, but I haven't utilized this really. 
When I look like a hott mess- Sorry, I'm pregnant. When I'm late- Sorry, I'm pregnant. When I eat 6 cookies that my co-worker's husband made (instead of 2 like a normal person)- Sorry, I'm pregnant.  When I fall asleep in my chair at work which has happened twice now..- Sorry, I'm pregnant. #sorrynotsorry 
 
 
I took the gestational diabetes test (or Diabhetus if you're Wilfred Brimley) this week. The drink wasn't as bad as everyone had made it out to be, it was literally like a flat orange Fanta soda, but having to fast/not drink anything for a few hours beforehand was a bit difficult.  We dont find out the results until next week sometime, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed we dont have it.  The tech who took my blood was pregnant as well, and slightly grumpy, so hopefully more blood draws from Nurse PreggoMcGrumpy are not in our future.
 
 
 
Here we are at 28weeks and 3 days.  The belly is slowly getting bigger, and while it feels huge to me, in the grand scheme of things, I think i still look fairly small for 7 months pregnant.  Until I try to see my feet, bend over to grab something  anything, wear a regular/non-maternity shirt, tie my shoes.. etc.
Also, the non wearing of shoes was on accident, but i think it classes it up a little bit.  You know the barefooted pregnant lady is always a good look.  All I need are some curlers and a bath robe. (the robe isn't a stretch for me at all, if you've stopped by the house unannounced, you've seen my in my 'after hours uniform' of a VS bathrobe, messy side pony and mis-matched slippers.
 
# Lyndsey

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

28 weeks


8 weeks- I was so tiny!
28 weeks- not so tiny
 
 
 















 
These two photos help put things into perspective just how big the baby is becoming.  The photo on the left was the first one we took to start documenting the pregnancy.  I wish we had taken them starting the minute we found out, I'm already a little swollen in this photo, but the change between the two of them is so fun to see!
Here we are at 8 weeks, the baby was the size of a raspberry, .63 inches long and weighed .04oz.  The photo on the right was taken tonight, we are now at 28 weeks and the baby is the size of a head of cauliflower (16 inches) and weighs approximately 2.5lbs.  I struggle sometimes to believe that something that size is growing in my belly right now, and I know these are all approximations, but still! those measurements seem huge and I dont feel that huge just yet!
In fairly awesome news, we are now at the 28 week mark!  This is exciting for many reasons: 1) we are officially in the 3rd trimester (as of last week) which means we are that much closer to meeting our little one! 2) the survival rate of babies delivered at this age and onward is 90% or higher.  we are obviously praying he/she stays cooking as long as possible, but knowing these statistics is comforting, just in case! 3) we are only 9 weeks away from what is considered 'full term' at 37 weeks.  Again, making it all the way to 40 is ideal, but knowing we have that few of weeks left is crazy to think about! 4) We now will go to see our doctor on a bi-monthly basis, rather than just once a month.  I remember at the beginning of the pregancy when we got all our appointments scheduled, this point felt soo far away.  And yet, we are already here.  we will meet with Dr. D twice in March, twice in April, 4 times in May (if we make it that long) and then the baby will be here!
 
How far along? 28 weeks
Total weight gain/loss: we were up 12.6lbs at our last appointment.  I go in tomorrow for our 28 week appointment and can update this then. 
Maternity clothes? most definitely! I've gone through my closet and sufficiently weeded out boxes of 'non-maternity' clothes that I can no longer fit into.
Stretch marks? Still none and keeping fingers crossed it stays that way!
Best moment this week: B has read the baby a few more stories this week.  Its such a sweet way to bond with the baby, and I know this tradition will continue when the baby is here for real. LOVE it.
Miss anything: Being able to pick something up off the floor without assistance. and being able to bend in half to stretch out my back.
Movement: we had the hiccups for the first time this week!  At first I just wrote it off as regular movement, but when I stopped and paid attention to it, there were small thumps about 3 seconds apart and this lasted for a few minutes! not too discernable from the outside, but I could definitely feel them from the inside. Its happened twice now :) 
Food cravings: I'm still loving the Watermelon or Strawberry Blow Pops.
Anything making you queasy or sick: Nope.
Have you started to show yet: most definitely.  A random woman at church on Sunday told me that the baby bump was beautiful.  totally made my day, and it was such a great feeling.
Gender: We are still team green!
Labor Signs: Nope, all is staying put and continuing to cook as planned. The Braxton Hicks have subsided a bit; they still happen but not as frequently (that I've noticed at least!)
Belly Button in or out? Still in (technically) but it is almost flat now.
Wedding rings on or off? Sadly, they have been temporarily moved to the safe.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy
Looking forward to: Meeting him/her! We know there is still a fair amount of time left in the pregnancy, but we are so excited to have him or her be a part of our daily lives on the outside.
 
 
# Lyndsey

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Bumpin' updates

It is still taking me time to get use to the baby bump that is now fixed to my body.  I've been very fortunate (and worked very hard) to make this as healthy a pregnancy as I can, so I've been lucky that the weight I've gained so far is mostly in my stomach.  I'm my relative size everywhere else, with the exception of the basketball sized baby bump attached to my mid-section.Yes, we read the daily updates on the growing size and weight of our little one, and you'd think that I'd have wrapped my head around it by now, but I am still sometimes surprised by the reflection in the mirror.  In light of the new addition to my body, many different things have happened as a result.  A few are below:

* A friend of mine called me 'Buddah Belly" for the first time. She quickly tried to assure me that the belly was cute and that it looked like the little buddah bellies you see on statues, and that it just looks so touchable.. she's lucky she's a friend..

* I walked to lunch with a friend the other day, and on our way back, a guy yells out the car window 'Hey Girl, Hey' (insert valley girl intonation there).  We both look at each-other and laugh.  I was so caught off guard, but after the fact, I wish I had turned to him, rubbed my very visibly pregnant stomach and said 'oh ya? you find this sexy?'

* I swear the baby is making me lose my mind. One of my co-workers was to be induced on Friday to have her baby girl.  I was talking with a group of other co-workers and voiced how much of a bummer it would be for the baby to be born on that day (date wise). Her birthday would fall on a leap year every 4 years, and that would be a bummer.  They all stared at me blankly and one finally said "The only way her birthday would be on a leap year is if she were born on one.  Today is March 1."  cripes

* I dropped something on the floor the other day and Brandon watched me bend/squat down to pick it up and just laughed at me. Turns out I look as ridiculous as I feel when I do it =/

Just a few of the items that have fallen on the floor and I've left as a casualty.  Lucky for me, I work in an office and these things are all readily available..

* I purchased two boxes of Girl Scout Cookies recently (thin mints) and proceeded to eat an entire sleeve in one sitting.

* The baby is incredibly stubborn already.  I can be laying on the couch watching him/her move from the outside, and the minute I turn on the camera to get it on film, he/she stops immediately.  When I finally give up and turn the camera off, the movement starts up again!

* I'm on the board of an advertising non-profit group here in town, and last week we had our annual fundraiser.  As part of this, I helped organized the silent auction.  On the day of the event there were a few items dropped off last minute and needed photographs for the bidding sheets.  I kept taking photos and on reviewing them, I couldn't figure out why half of the bottom of each image kept getting cut off.  Turns out I was standing too close to the table, and the baby was halfway in each photo. (See below). You'd think I would've figured it out sooner and stepped back from the table, but I guess not.
 

* While eating in the past week, I've noticed that food has fallen onto my stomach rather than my lap.  Three seperate times.

* When I use the sink here at work, twice now I've leaned over to wash my hands, and gotten water on the bottom of my belly.  Thank goodness I looked in the mirror before leaving, because I couldn't see the water from just looking down.

* I can no longer see my feet without leaning forward.

* Putting on shoes has become increasingly difficult.  Any slip on flats are good, anything with zippers, buckles, laces or straps have been retired for the time being. Yes, this includes my tennis shoes for the gym. pretty soon i'm going to start showing up bare-foot.

* When I  was younger (and even to this day) I dont like having pressure put on my stomach.  Belts, leggings, too tight pants, etc.  Well, I've somehow passed this onto our baby bear becuase he/she sits so low that the seam of all my maternity clothes rest right on where he/she has decided to take up residence.  If i sit for 15 minutes at a time for any reason, WoabbaLee starts kicking and rolling around like crazy until i lean back to relieve the pressure.

* If I sleep to far on my side, WoabbaLee gets irritated and starts kicking me from both sides until I wake up and roll onto my back.

* We have a future athlete in there, I'm sure of it.  I frequently get kicked in varying spots in rapid succession, and just recently I've started to get some kicks in my ribs.  Just this morning I woke up and I've got what feels like an internal bruise about the size of a $.50 piece.


In other news, I thought it would be good to show a photo of what we look like on a daily basis, not just in the "weekly bump photo" attire. I make no claims what-so-ever about being fashionable, but today is a day that I actually feel pretty good about what I'm wearing. Maternity clothing has come a long way (so I'm told) and I'm grateful that things are able to be comfortable but still cute. Granted, this shirt is slightly looser than most, but you get the idea of the relative size of the baby :)  This is us at 27 weeks, 2 days.



     



#Lyndsey


                          
 

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

27 Weeks- 3rd Trimester!!

27 weeks
As the photo says, we have reached a big milestone- 3rd trimester!  It is so crazy that we are already this far into the pregnancy; it feels like not too long ago we were just sharing the awesome news with family and friends.  Things have been great so far though, and we are keeping our fingers crossed it stays that way!  So many things to do now though.. finish up the nursery, baby showers, packing our bags, etc.  Luckily we still have around 3 months, but still! Gotta get on it.

How far along? 27 weeks
Total weight gain/loss: we were up 12.6lbs at our last appointment, and will update this when we go in March for our 28 week appointment. At this point though, I'd guess I'm up at least 15lbs.
Maternity clothes? most definitely! The maternity store was having some good sales recently so I've stocked up on more dresses/skirts.  I'm soo ready for summer!
Stretch marks? Still none and keeping fingers crossed it stays that way!
Best moment this week: We recently got a stack of baby books from B's childhood, and he's read one to the baby so far.  many more readings are planned for the future. :)
Miss anything: Being able to pick something up off the floor without assistance.  and being able to bend in half to stretch out my back.
Movement: I think we had another growth spurt this past week, becasue the movement was slightly decreased, but now in the evenings, he/she is rolling all over the place!  I can now tell the difference between a kick, a punch and a roll. 
Food cravings: I'm still loving the Watermelon or Strawberry Blow Pops. 
Anything making you queasy or sick: Nope.
Have you started to show yet: most definitely.  Strangers are starting to ask how far along I am, and I LOVE it :)
Gender: We are still team green!
Labor Signs: Nope, all is staying put and continuing to cook as planned. The Braxton Hicks are part of our daily life, but nothing is painful, so I just think of them as growing pains/good practice.
Belly Button in or out? Still in (technically) but it is becoming flatter and flatter with each passing day.
Wedding rings on or off? Sadly they have been temporarily moved to the safe. I will get a chain so I can wear them around my neck, but for the time being, I'm wearing a stand in.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy
Looking forward to: Meeting him/her! We know there is still a fair amount of time left in the pregnancy, but we are so excited to have him or her be a part of our daily lives on the outside.
 
In other news.. I'm fairly certain this is how our sleeping arrangements are, as of late.  Since purchasing the body pillow, I know that I've been sleeping better, but somehow in the middle of the night, the body pillow ends up on the floor and my regular pillow and a throw pillow end up in the bed. This is the one time in my life that I'll openly admit I'm a bed and a cover hog.  Whatever helps me sleep I guess..?
 
 
 
 
# Lyndsey